Hello friends! Did you miss me? I certainly missed you.
I’ve thought about writing this post many times in the last weeks, in the quiet moments of the night and the hazy early morning drives to work. I’ve been lacking a certain amount of enthusiasm and positivity in my life lately. As most of you know, by reading or by knowing me personally, I tiptoe that razor-thin line between Leslie Knope enthusiasm/affection/happiness and spiraling negativity/depression/blahhh-ness. Yeah. Blah-ness. It’s my blog and I’ll make up a word if I want to.
So, if you feel like you’re like me and you’re someone who has space taken up inside them by lots of conflicting emotions and you want the ‘light and fluffies’ to win, I’mma help you out. Because who doesn’t want to feel all warm and happy?
Let me start off by telling you guys how important I think self-care is. I’ve talked about this so many times and it is quickly becoming a media trend and I am THRILLED. Self-care get your nails done. Self-care wash and deep condition your hair. Self-care wear your favorite new shirt. Self-care take a nature walk outside. Yes. Yes. YES. HOWEVER, self-care is more than this. It can be deeper; we can and SHOULD care for ourselves, but we should also acknowledge the self-care we get from playing a role in caring for others. ESPECIALLY in this ‘black-mirror–fahrenheit-451-dystopian-esque’ society we have going on. I’m not getting political on you, I’m just stating facts.
I regularly engage in self-care. I also do everything I can to abide by that Ryan Adams quote up there. Peep that. I’m by no means a perfect person, and I was definitely struggling until I got my head back on in the right direction (with the help of my wonderful friend-turned-trainer-turned-sounding board– sometimes you can’t do it alone people!). MOST of the time I love the crap out of everything. I’m very enthusiastic about spreading love to the people closest to me, and even strangers. Sorry mom! I smile. I give directions. I pet puppers (after asking permission!). I make small talk with employees in stores. Obviously, this isn’t to say I’m naïve, I still know when a situation is potentially dangerous. I’m saying I’m NICE, and I generally like to think that this helps make life more bearable for myself and those around me. The best part? It takes absolutely no effort and the rewards are instant.
Ok. With this said, I’m not dogging the lady that gets frustrated and screams at the sales clerk because, who knows, maybe she just lost someone close to her. It’s all a matter of perspective (thanks to something called the Fundamental Attribution Error* we have the tendency to believe that what people DO reflects who they ARE as a person… so basically most would just call this lady an asshole). Barring any major life tragedy– I believe that none of us are really incapable of spreading positivity and love, and there’s no reason not to be enthusiastic about this. We’re all here together, sharing this experience together and that’s kind of a beautiful thing, is it not? It’s good for you, it’s good for them. Might as well give it a try.
*A side note about Fundamental Attribution Error. This was always one of my absolute favorite topics, because I feel that people tend to make a lot of assumptions about others based on what they SEE. There’s always so much more to a person than meets the eye and it is absolutely worth taking the time to dig a little deeper and find out what is going on with someone and what drives/motivates their actions or behaviors. This is probably why I love working with people and learning their stories! Remember: People have layers. Like onions. And ogres. 😉 (If you didn’t get that reference you are now dismissed from my blog)